AITAH for Telling My Cousin She Can’t Bring Her Newborn to My Wedding?
Weddings are supposed to be joyful, but planning one can bring unexpected drama. I never thought I’d be in this situation, but here I am—wondering if I’m the a**hole (AITAH) for telling my cousin she can’t bring her newborn to my wedding. Let me explain, and please, tell me if I’m in the wrong.
The Wedding Planning Stress
Planning my dream wedding has been both exciting and exhausting. My fiancé and I decided early on that we wanted an adults-only celebration. We envisioned an elegant evening with cocktails, dancing, and no disruptions. We even put it on the invitations: “Adults-only reception, please.”
Most guests understood, but then my cousin, Sarah, announced she was pregnant. Her due date? Three weeks before my wedding. At first, I assumed she wouldn’t come—who brings a newborn to a wedding? But then she texted me: “Can’t wait to introduce the baby to everyone at your wedding!”
The Tough Conversation
I panicked. I love Sarah, but a crying baby during my vows? No. I gently reminded her about the no-kids rule, but she was furious. She said I was being selfish and that her baby needed her. I offered compromises: a babysitter at the venue, a private room for feedings, even covering the cost. But she refused.
Now, our family is divided. Some say I’m justified—it’s my wedding. Others say I’m heartless for excluding a newborn. Am I really the villain here?
Family Drama Unfolds
Sarah’s mom (my aunt) called me “bridezilla” and said family should come first. My mom is torn—she wants me happy but hates conflict. Meanwhile, my fiancé supports me 100%, but even he’s stressed by the drama.
I get it—newborns are fragile, and Sarah’s hormonal. But I also spent thousands on this wedding. Is it too much to ask for one kid-free night?
Setting Boundaries or Being Cruel?
I’ve always been a people-pleaser, but this time, I stood my ground. Was that wrong? Some say “it’s just a baby”, but what about my wishes? If I make an exception for Sarah, do I have to allow all kids? What about guests who already hired sitters?
Sarah says I’m punishing her for having a baby. But it’s not personal—I just don’t want a newborn at my formal wedding. AITAH?
The Internet’s Divided Opinion
I posted about this in a wedding forum, and wow—opinions are split. Some say:
- “Your wedding, your rules!”
- “Babies aren’t kids—they’re exceptions!”
- “You’re risking family relationships over one night.”
Now I’m second-guessing myself. Did I handle this poorly?
What Would You Do?
I’m torn. Part of me wants to apologize and let her bring the baby. The other part says stick to your boundaries. Maybe there’s a middle ground I’m missing?
So, AITAH? Be honest—I can take it. And if you’ve been in this situation, how did you handle it? Share your thoughts in the comments!
