AITA for Not Letting My Parents Move in After They Retired?

The Unexpected Request

My parents recently retired and decided to downsize their home. They sold their house much faster than they expected and suddenly needed a place to stay. That’s when they called me.

They wanted to move in with my partner and me for “a few months” until they figured out their next steps. On the surface, it sounded reasonable—they’re my parents, after all. But there’s a lot more history here.

Why I Said No

Growing up, my parents were strict and often controlling. Even as an adult, they have a habit of overstepping boundaries, commenting on everything from my career choices to how I raise my kids. I knew having them live under our roof would disrupt the balance we’ve worked hard to build.

I politely declined, explaining that we simply didn’t have the space or capacity to accommodate them. I offered to help them find a rental and even offered financial support if needed.

The Fallout

They were hurt and accused me of being ungrateful. My mom reminded me of all the sacrifices they made to raise me, and my dad said I was “abandoning” them in their time of need. Some relatives have chimed in, saying I’m being selfish.

Community Reactions

Comment 1: NTA. Setting boundaries doesn’t make you a bad child. You’re allowed to prioritize your family’s needs.

Comment 2: ESH. Your parents should respect your space, but maybe you could have offered a short-term stay with clear rules.

Comment 3: I’ve been in a similar situation—sometimes saying no is the only way to maintain peace. You’re not wrong for protecting your family.

Lessons Learned

This experience taught me that it’s okay to set boundaries, even with family. Saying no doesn’t mean I don’t love them—it means I respect my family’s well-being.

Final Thoughts

So, AITA for refusing to let my parents move in? Or should I have made room for them, even if it meant disrupting our household? I’d love to hear your thoughts.