AITAH for Not Wanting My Partner’s Best Friend at Our Wedding?
Weddings are supposed to be a joyful occasion, but what happens when a single guest threatens to ruin your big day? Inviting partner’s best friend at our wedding, but I have my reasons for not wanting them there. AITAH for standing my ground?
Background Information
My partner and I have been together for five years, and we’re finally planning our wedding. Most of the preparations have been smooth, but one issue keeps coming up—the guest list.
Specifically, my partner’s best friend, “Alex.”
I’ve never liked Alex, and to be honest, the feeling seems mutual. They’ve made snide remarks about me since day one, constantly “joking” about how I’m too controlling, too sensitive, or not the right match for my partner. Even though my partner brushes it off as harmless teasing, it’s been years of passive-aggressive digs, and I’ve had enough.
The Main Conflict
When we sat down to finalize the guest list, I told my partner, “I don’t want Alex at our wedding.”
They immediately pushed back. “Alex is my best friend. You can’t just uninvite them.”
I explained how uncomfortable Alex makes me, how I don’t want to feel stressed or disrespected on my own wedding day. But my partner insisted I was overreacting. “They’re just joking, and they mean well,” they said.
I told them that if Alex comes, I’ll spend my own wedding day feeling anxious, waiting for the next snide comment or awkward interaction. My partner still refuses to see my side.
The Aftermath
Now, we’re at a standstill. My partner says I’m making an unreasonable demand and trying to control who they can be friends with. But I feel like my feelings should matter too—it’s my wedding just as much as theirs.
Friends and family are divided. Some say I should suck it up for one day, while others agree that I deserve to be comfortable at my own wedding. My partner and I haven’t spoken much since our last argument, and I’m worried this could become a bigger issue than just one wedding guest.
Community Reaction
“Your wedding should be a safe, happy place. You shouldn’t have to invite someone who makes you miserable.”
“Your partner should respect your feelings. It’s not about control—it’s about comfort.”
“If your partner refuses to back you up now, what happens in the future?”
“Maybe set some boundaries—can Alex come but not give a speech? Or interact with you?”
“You’re not wrong for wanting peace on your big day, but this might be a deeper issue in your relationship.”
Final Thoughts
I want my wedding to be a joyful occasion, not a stressful one. But I also don’t want to create unnecessary drama.
AITAH for refusing to let my partner’s best friend attend our wedding?
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