AITAH for Refusing to Host My Brother’s Wedding at My House?
Weddings are supposed to be happy occasions, but what if you’re pressured into hosting one in your own home? My brother and his fiancée want to use my house for their wedding to save money, but I don’t feel comfortable. Am I wrong for refusing to host my brother’s wedding at my house?
Background Information
My brother, Mark, recently got engaged, and while I’m happy for him, wedding planning has been chaotic. He and his fiancée, Lisa, are on a tight budget, so they’re looking for ways to cut costs.
A few weeks ago, Mark casually mentioned, “Hey, your backyard is perfect for a wedding! We could have a beautiful ceremony right there.”
At first, I thought he was joking. My house is nice, but it’s not a wedding venue. Plus, hosting an event that big means a lot of work—cleaning, decorating, and dealing with guests. But Mark and Lisa were serious, and they assumed I’d be on board.
The Main Conflict
When they officially asked me, I hesitated and said, “I don’t think I’m comfortable hosting a whole wedding here. That’s a lot of responsibility.”
Lisa immediately looked disappointed. “But it would save us so much money. We can’t afford a venue.”
Mark added, “Come on, it’s just one day. We’ll handle everything—you won’t have to do a thing.”
But I know that’s not true. Even if they handle the planning, I’ll be responsible for my home. What if something gets damaged? What about noise complaints from neighbors? Who’s going to clean up after? The more I thought about it, the more stressed I felt.
When I stood my ground, Mark got frustrated and said I was being selfish. “You have the space, and we’re family. Why wouldn’t you want to help us?”
The Aftermath
Now, Mark and Lisa are upset with me. They’ve told our parents, who think I should just be generous and help them out. Mom even said, “It’s just one day, sweetie. You’ll regret not being part of their big moment.”
Meanwhile, I feel guilty, but I also think it’s unfair for them to put this on me. I’m not a venue owner—I’m just someone with a house, and I don’t want to deal with the stress of hosting a wedding.
Community Reaction
“Your home is not a free event space. They’re asking for a huge favor, not just a small gesture.”
“If they can’t afford a venue, they should scale down their wedding—not expect you to host it.”
“Hosting a wedding means damage, cleanup, and liability. You’re not selfish for saying no.”
“It’s frustrating that your family is trying to guilt you instead of respecting your boundaries.”
“You’re already giving them an answer, and they’re just refusing to hear it. That’s not fair to you.”
Final Thoughts
I love my brother, and I want his wedding to be special, but I don’t think I should have to take on such a huge burden just because they want to save money.
AITAH for refusing to let them use my home as a wedding venue?
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