AITA for Not Taking Care of My Sick Husband After He Never Helps Me When I’m Sick?

Marriage is about supporting each other, but what happens when it feels one-sided? My husband always expects me to take care of him when he’s sick, but when I’m the one unwell, he acts like nothing is wrong. This time, I decided to do the same—and now, he’s furious.

The Original Post: He Expects Care but Gives None

When I’m Sick, He Acts Like It’s No Big Deal

Whenever I get sick, my husband doesn’t lift a finger to help. He won’t cook, check on me, or even bring me medicine. He just tells me to “rest” while I still manage household chores.

But when he gets sick? He suddenly needs everything—soup, medicine, comfort, and complete rest. I’ve always taken care of him, but this time, I decided to do exactly what he does to me: nothing.

When he asked for tea, I told him to make it himself. When he wanted me to grab his medicine, I said, “You’ll be fine, just rest.” Now, he’s angry and says I’m being cruel. Am I the asshole?

The Community Reacts: Fair Payback or Cold-Hearted?

Many people supported not taking care of my sick husband after years of one-sided effort.

“He’s only mad because he’s realizing how badly he treats you when you’re sick.”

“If he wants care, he should give care. You’re just showing him how it feels.”

“You’re not his nurse or his mom. He can take care of himself for once.”

However, others thought this approach was too harsh.

“Marriage isn’t about revenge. You should have talked to him instead.”

“Two wrongs don’t make a right. If you want change, communicate.”

“He may have been inconsiderate, but ignoring someone when they’re sick isn’t the answer.”

The Verdict: Setting a Boundary or Being Petty?

While some believed she should have talked to him first, most agreed that not taking care of my sick husband was a justified response after his repeated neglect.

Marriage should be about mutual care, not one-sided effort. Would you have done the same, or do you think I went too far? Let us know in the comments!