AITAH for Asking My Husband to Sleep on the Couch After He Came Home Drunk and Woke the Baby?

There are few things more exhausting than caring for a newborn—except maybe caring for a newborn and dealing with a partner who doesn’t seem to get it. Today’s AITAH-inspired blog post explores a story that struck a nerve with many parents and partners alike.

Is asking for peace too much? Or was this wife overreacting by kicking her husband out of their shared bed?

Let’s unpack the story that’s sparking heated debates online.

The Situation: Sleepless Nights and a Staggering Entrance

A new mom—we’ll call her Lina—posted to r/AITAH describing a recent late-night altercation with her husband, Mark.

Lina had just put their two-month-old baby to sleep after what she described as a “four-hour colic battle.” Her husband had gone out for a friend’s birthday—something she encouraged him to do since she believed he needed a break.

But at 2:30 AM, Mark came home drunk.

Not just tipsy. Not just a little loud. Drunk and stumbling, accidentally slamming the door, turning on the bedroom lights, and ultimately waking up the baby Lina had just settled down.

Cue the screaming (from the baby) and the boiling point (from Lina).

The Reaction: One Couch, Coming Right Up

Lina snapped.

She immediately told Mark to sleep on the couch. When he started protesting, she told him bluntly that if he couldn’t respect the household routine or consider their baby’s sleep schedule, he had no place in their shared bed that night.

Mark reluctantly complied—but the next morning, he was cold, distant, and accused Lina of overreacting and “punishing” him for one mistake.

That’s when Lina turned to Reddit with the now-famous question: AITAH for asking my husband to sleep on the couch after he came home drunk and woke the baby?

Breaking It Down: Boundaries, Babies, and Bottles of Beer

The Case for Lina: Tired, Overwhelmed, and Justified

Parenting a newborn is brutal. The sleep deprivation alone can make even minor disruptions feel catastrophic. For Lina, it wasn’t just about the noise. It was the disrespect of the entire situation.

She supported Mark going out. But she expected some sense of responsibility—like coming home quietly, maybe skipping the last round of shots, and remembering there’s now a tiny human in the house who needs sleep (and so does she).

Kicking him to the couch wasn’t about punishment—it was about protecting her sanity and their baby’s fragile sleep schedule.

The Case for Mark: One Bad Night, Big Consequences

From Mark’s side, maybe it was just one misstep. Everyone needs a break, and maybe he didn’t expect things to get so out of control.

Getting kicked out of the bedroom might’ve felt like a harsh response, especially when he hadn’t had a night out in months. He may have seen it as a lack of empathy rather than a fair boundary.

Reddit’s Verdict: Mostly on Lina’s Side

The Reddit community, known for its sharp sense of fairness, largely sided with Lina.

“You’re keeping a whole human alive and need rest. He couldn’t even come in the house quietly. NTA,” one user commented.

Others pointed out that new parents have to be a team, and that coming home drunk at 2:30 AM when you’ve got a baby at home is simply irresponsible.

However, a few commenters offered a softer take:

“NAH. He was wrong, but he didn’t do it maliciously. Sounds like you both need a reset and an honest conversation.”

Communication Is Everything

What stands out in this story is a lack of clear post-baby expectations. Many couples struggle with the transition from partners to parents—especially when one feels the weight of parenting more heavily than the other.

This situation could have played out very differently if:

• They had talked in advance about what going out would look like with a newborn at home.

• Mark had been more aware of how sensitive the household had become.

• Lina had shared her limits before hitting them.

That said, in the heat of exhaustion, it’s understandable that things blew up.

What Could They Do Moving Forward?

For Lina:

• Reaffirm that her reaction was about the behavior—not trying to punish.

• Ask for more proactive support going forward.

• Set clear boundaries about nights out and household responsibilities.

For Mark:

• Acknowledge the disruption and apologize.

• Be more mindful of how his actions affect the family.

• Suggest a dedicated night off together to recharge and reconnect.

The Verdict: Not the Villain—Just a Tired Mom With Standards

In the end, asking your partner to sleep on the couch after a disruptive, inconsiderate night isn’t villainous. It’s a reaction born from stress, exhaustion, and a desire for peace.

What matters most is how couples handle the aftermath. If both Lina and Mark can come together, own their parts, and agree on expectations moving forward, this could just be a bump in the road—not a breaking point.