AITAH for Not Offering My Guest a Blanket When They Crashed at My Place?

I never thought I’d be questioning my hospitality over something as simple as a blanket, but here we are. Last weekend, a friend crashed at my place after a late-night hangout, and I didn’t offer them a blanket. Now, they’re making me feel like I committed some kind of hosting sin. So, I’m turning to you—AITAH?

The Late-Night Hangout

It all started when a group of friends came over for drinks and movies. We were having a great time—laughing, reminiscing, and maybe having one too many cocktails. By the time everyone started leaving, it was past 2 AM. One friend, let’s call them Taylor, was clearly too tired to drive home safely.

I offered Taylor my couch to crash on, and they gladly accepted. I handed them a pillow, pointed to the linen closet (where spare blankets are kept), and said, “Make yourself comfortable!” before heading to my room.

The Morning After

The next morning, Taylor seemed… off. They were quieter than usual, and when I asked if they slept okay, they gave me a pointed look and said, “I was freezing all night.”

I blinked. “Oh, sorry—did you not see the extra blankets in the closet?” I asked. Taylor frowned. “You didn’t offer one, so I didn’t want to go digging through your stuff.”

I felt a little defensive. The closet was right there, and I had mentioned it. But now, Taylor’s acting like I left them to suffer.

Was I Obligated?

Here’s where I’m conflicted. I did offer a place to stay, which I think was already a nice gesture. Was it really my responsibility to tuck them in like a child? Taylor’s an adult—if they were cold, could they not have just grabbed a blanket?

On the other hand, maybe good hosting means anticipating needs. Should I have handed them a blanket directly instead of assuming they’d help themselves?

Friendship Etiquette Check

I’ve always thought close friends shouldn’t need to be waited on in each other’s homes. If I’m at Taylor’s place, I’d feel comfortable grabbing a glass of water or an extra pillow without asking. Shouldn’t that go both ways?

But Taylor insists that as the host, it was my job to make sure they were comfortable. They argued that pointing to a closet wasn’t the same as actually providing warmth.

The Internet Weighs In

I polled a few mutual friends, and opinions were split. Some said I was inconsiderate—“You wouldn’t let a guest shiver!” Others sided with me—“If they were that cold, they should’ve spoken up.”

One friend even joked, “Next time, just hand them a sleeping bag and call it a day.” But the real question is—who’s right?

Learning From This

Looking back, I could’ve been more attentive. Maybe I was too tired to think about it, or maybe I overestimated how comfortable Taylor felt rummaging through my things. Either way, I’ll probably hand over a blanket next time to avoid drama.

But part of me still thinks this is a silly thing to be mad about. Shouldn’t adults communicate their needs instead of expecting mind-reading?

Final Thoughts

So, AITAH? I genuinely don’t know. I tried to be a good host by offering a place to stay, but maybe I missed a small courtesy. Then again, was it really my fault if Taylor didn’t speak up?

I’d love to hear your take. Have you ever been in this situation—as the host or the guest? Drop a comment and let me know if I was the jerk here!