AITAH For Posting My Friend’s Failures On Social Media

Let me start by saying this: I never thought I’d be the kind of person to air someone else’s dirty laundry online. But here we are. My friend—let’s call her Jess—has been making some questionable life choices lately, and after months of biting my tongue, I finally snapped. I posted about her latest disaster on my social media… and now our mutual friends are divided. Some say I was justified, others are calling me a terrible friend. So, AITAH?

The Backstory Unfolds

Jess and I have been close since college. She’s always been the “wild one” in our group—impulsive, dramatic, and constantly in some kind of mess. At first, it was funny. But over the last year, her behavior has spiraled. Failed relationships, reckless spending, even losing two jobs because she couldn’t show up on time. Every time she’d crash and burn, I’d be the one picking up the pieces.

The Breaking Point

Last month, Jess asked to borrow $1,500 for rent after blowing her paycheck on a Vegas trip. I said no—for once. She guilt-tripped me, called me selfish, then miraculously “found” the money… by scamming her new boyfriend. When I called her out, she laughed it off: “He’s rich, he won’t notice.” That’s when I lost it. Screenshots of her texts? Posted. A timeline of her disasters? Posted. No names, but everyone knew it was her.

The Fallout Begins

Within hours, my DMs exploded. Half our friends cheered me on: “Someone had to say it!” The other half accused me of bullying. Jess went nuclear—crying, threatening to sue (she won’t), and playing the victim to anyone who’d listen. Now our friend group is split down the middle, and I’m stuck wondering: Did I take it too far?

Was It Really Wrong?

Here’s my justification: I didn’t lie. Everything I posted was 100% true. Jess has been hurting people left and right, and nobody was holding her accountable. If she didn’t want her bad behavior exposed, maybe she shouldn’t have bragged about it in our group chats. But part of me wonders if public humiliation was the right approach. Could I have handled this privately? Probably. Would she have listened? Doubtful.

The Ethics of Call-Outs

This whole mess has me thinking about social media morality. When is it okay to expose someone’s flaws? If they’re actively harming others? If private talks fail? I’ve seen influencers get canceled for less, but I’m just a regular person trying to cope with a toxic friendship. Still, the guilt gnaws at me. Maybe there’s no clean answer—just damage control now.

Where Do We Go Now?

Jess isn’t speaking to me (shocking), and honestly? I’m relieved. But the rift in our friend circle hurts. Some say I should apologize to keep the peace; others insist I stand my ground. For now, I’ve archived the posts—not because they weren’t true, but because the drama isn’t worth it. Lesson learned: next time, I’ll just walk away instead of turning to Twitter fingers.

Your Verdict Matters

So, AITAH? Was I justified in calling out my friend’s toxic behavior, or did I cross a line? Have you ever been in a similar situation? Drop your thoughts in the comments—I need some perspective here. And if you’ve got a friend like Jess… maybe just mute their stories instead of going nuclear like I did.