AITA for Not Letting My Friend Propose at My Wedding?
Weddings are supposed to be about the couple getting married, but what happens when a guest wants to steal the spotlight? One bride shut down a friend’s plan to propose at her wedding, and it caused major drama. Was she right to stand her ground?
The Original Post: My Wedding Is Not the Time for a Proposal
He Thought It Would Be Romantic
A few weeks before my wedding, my friend Jake pulled me aside and excitedly said he planned to propose to his girlfriend—at my reception. He believed it would be “the perfect moment” because weddings are romantic, and all our friends and family would be there.
Right away, I shut him down. I told him I didn’t feel comfortable with my wedding serving as a backdrop for his proposal. He looked surprised and accused me of being selfish for not wanting to share “just a few minutes” of my special day.
Even after my clear refusal, Jake didn’t stop. Instead, he went behind my back and asked my fiancé, my maid of honor, and even my parents to convince me. Now he’s upset and calls me inconsiderate. While some mutual friends think I should allow it, I believe my wedding should focus on me and my partner—not someone else’s big moment. Am I the asshole?
The Community Reacts: Was I Justified?
Many people thought saying no to a proposal at my wedding was fair.
“It’s your wedding and your choice. He should propose another time.”
“Proposing at someone else’s wedding takes attention away from the couple.”
“He tried to push you into agreeing, which is a bad sign.”
On the other hand, some believed I reacted too strongly.
“It’s just a proposal. Would it really ruin your night?”
“If you’re good friends, sharing the moment could have been nice.”
“If it happened after the main events, I don’t think it would matter.”
The Verdict: Personal Boundaries or Overreaction?
While some thought I should have allowed the proposal, most agreed saying no was the right choice.
In the end, weddings focus on the couple getting married, not someone else’s moment. Would you have done the same? Share your thoughts in the comments!
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